Church surfing

So we have tried a bunch of churches and there was one more I wanted to give a shot....we did today....and not my style is an understatement. The church sanctuary was huge and had pews which is neither bad or good just observation bc most of the contemporary churches we have tried have chairs. At 2 min till the service there was just about no one there, which could have been the sheer size of the bldg. So singing begins and there is a formal choir in robes and a full rock band, preacher in full suit and tie, and band in jeans and tshirts, again neither bad or good just a little dis jointed in my opinion, and then everyone starts dancing in a new age kinda way, dancing in circles, in the isles, and then flags start waiving.... No joke like high school drill team flags, but not in unison just doing whatever and then a horn blows but not a trumpet but like an actual elk horn making a weird noise that went with nothing. And the songs went on for a really really long time example sing song, then no choir, then just a girl, then just a guy, then with music again, then really slow, then even slower, then a whisper and finally over, no kidding about 12 min songs. Then we read the bulletin and see there is an hour of singing then the sermon when kids leave to children's church so about a 2 hr deal ... So at that point we decided to leave so we made it about 40 mins. I feel very judgmental writing this and not that I am against anyone it but just not my style. I do not mind raising of hands or interjecting our own thing but this felt like a performance not a genuine thing.... Just not for us, duke and I quietly stood there as folks danced all over and the kids were starting to point out random weird act and behaviors...it was kinda bizarre.
I am all for a contemporary service and actually prefer it to a traditional one but this place was over the top....too evangelical for me but To each his own and if that fills what the attendees need then awesome, glad they are getting closer to God, then it meets it goal, just not a place I felt comfortable to call a church home, so the search continues.
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a little resolve

So  I did some research and found a couple homes, we spent the afternoon looking and found a place we can live with.  Best part is they gave us a 6 month lease and month to month after that so if we wanna build   or buy we can and not screw anyone over.  It has a pool, it is a great school, and close to where we are now so i know the area and the neighbor hood is great... lots of kids, safe for bike riding, good cc&r's, homeowners assn, and they do lots of neighborhood activities so bonus only down fall is it is 2 car garage and we have a 3 now... but that's not too bad of a concession since we saw zero with a 3rd bay.  Sadly the kids have to move schools again, but at least now we are in an area that I like the Jr high dale would attend, and the elementary is small, but rated exemplary, low ratios, and had numerous playgrounds so hooray we will have recess again, so another bonus.  I think my kids teachers will be the saddest as i am one of a handful of volunteers who go up there to help.  So we will move the beginning of March.  Also the home owners are solid and financially sound so this won't happen again, she's a teacher and he's DEA.  SO all is well that begins well...  check back in a couple weeks when i am up to my ears in boxes and peeved at all the calls to disconnect and reconnect ....ugg i HATE that stuff.... such a drag and I finally though I had contacted everyone for this address and he we go changing again and sadly it will at least one more time.... but that will be back to a home I own, I hope so that gives me a little resolve.  I sure hope that is the situation because the majority of homes out there are like crayon boxes inside... orange, and lime, and pink, and blue, yellow, and not painting behind the tv you took down... just random.... ok hint for all the sellers out there NEUTRAL sells .... nonsense does NOT

I flipping knew it

So suspicions confirmed our landlord is loosing our rental house and has asked us to vacate in hops he can sell and recover. His claim is his mortgage messed up on his taxes and his escrow and payments jumped 1000 bucks .... I think he bought this and had an interest only loan than has ballooned and cant afford it. Whatever so dilemma is we have to move We plan on getting all deposits and not pay for march and be out by spring break. Sucks and I guess we could stay but till the bank comes knocking whenever that is but what does that gain us... Most likely we will loose our deposits since we will have stayed when unwanted and some reasons will be found to keep it and have to vacate on someone elses schedule and be at the mercy of the rental market as to what is available. He wants to sell but he's lost the house in my opinion it won't sell fast unless he bottoms out the price which I doubt he can do so us leaving does not really help him but keeps us from overstaying our welcome and he will give deposits back willingly and hopefully grant us 2 weeks in march for free and we can us that to pay deposits and other stuff....sooo frustrating this whole thing is....but inevitable. So we are house shopping again and at least I get impute this time some for that but now we face 2 moves to another rental and then to a purchased one.... And I hate moving ...hate hate hate! I do feel for the owner but sure hope he realizes what a favor we are doing moving mid school year and all and 4 months early.

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Mars Venus thing

Why is it just when you accept your situation, feel under control and stable in life or in a specific area then it gets all tossed up and messy again. I don't get it, I guess it's Gods way of keeping you humble and letting you know "hey I got this, not you ME". But man oh man its hard

And why is it men and women are polar opposites on dealing with these matters of straightening the mess up. Men want all the facts, all the pieces to hit the ground and survey all the pieces and until then feel it is pointless to speak of, ponder, wonder, question, or establish possible game plans or solutions. Women think about it and it is not always worrisome just hypotheticals, what ifs, and then what, pieces can be in the air and we see them hover and hypothetically deal. Then when they hit I am ready to act. My thing is I would rather have an idea of what I might do in various sceranios so when the info does become solid, I am not blindsided and forced to act in haste. I have no doubt that whatever situations arise we will come thru and be fine and then when we do it will all be tossed up and need to be cleaned up again.

So where is this coming from well we are renting a home and it's ok but not what we want to own, still a bit uncertain on where we wanna be permanently and have a rental thru June and were thinking about trying to stay till august..... We asked about a small repair, that we offered to fix and take off the rent and submit receipts ...his response was he can't afford the house any more let's finish the month he will refund deposits and we move out and he puts it for sale. Uhh NO refocus on a Ticked off me.... We pay our rent early every month we have done no damage so deposits should be coming back regardless AND no it will be super hard to find another rental for a short term and again we are not ready to build or buy ....we could, but just do not feel ready and now I fear that if it goes to foreclosure we will be screwed and forced to incur additional moving costs, end up somewhere that is less than ideal due to timing issues and on someone elses time schedule. I wanna speculate, talk, plan, think, brainstorm potential sceranios and my husband says "I should not have told you till I knew more, bc now you will worry about it."

It's not all worry it's just my makeup! And yes you should share this info with me bc we are married, in this together to the end, and it does not all fall to you to fix, nor do I want you to, repeat: in this together!

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